Telling off the hiring manager: 😆 cathartic, but with consequences 😕
Hello, sunshine 😎 I want to tell you a quick story about a job I didn't get last year and, against my better judgement, decided to snub the hiring manager.
It all started when I was headhunted for a role.
They'd seen some of the content I was creating to help job seekers, so they thought I'd be great to put together a program to help students kick off their careers.
I got on a phone call with the hiring manager where they explained all of the details of the role, the benefits and expressed their interest in me being a part of the team. They even went into great detail about the application process and coached me on what to do at each stage - all the signs that they really wanted me!
Over the course of the next few days, I went through a phone interview, submitted a proposal of content with examples (I even received an email back from the hiring manager advising me to add a few specific details to my proposal that would make me stand out to the hiring committee) and then I did a video interview.
I don't typically get excited for roles until there's an offer in my inbox (saves me from getting my hopes up), but I admit, I had my hopes up. This role was a great opportunity, so I threw everything I had into it.
Then they went silent for 18 days. EIGHTEEN DAYS.
I followed up a couple of times, but nothing. I'd accepted they must have gone with another candidate, so I began going through my process to get over the rejection - until they emailed back.
They apologized for the delay, explained that they had 150+ candidates and I just unfortunately didn't make the cut.
Fine, that's ok. We could have parted ways there, but then they insisted I get on a call with them so they could share some feedback.
I was ready to move on, but didn't want to burn the relationship by turning down valuable feedback, so I agreed and scheduled some time the next day for them to call me at 1:00pm.
The next day...
At 12:50 I found a quiet space
At 12:55 I played my power song
At 12:59 I took a few deep breaths and mentally prepared myself
At 1:00... nothing happened
At 1:01... still nothing
At 1:02 I started to get angry
At 1:03 my phone rang and I sent it to voicemail
I have a pretty hard and fast rule about timing and professionalism: honour your commitments and be on time for your meetings, full stop.
So, now I was furious 🤬
They headhunted me
Coached me on how to apply
Made me commit time to putting together a thorough application
Didn't reply to any of my follow ups
Made me wait 18 days for a reply
Didn't hire me
Didn't let me move on; insisted I get on the phone with them again
Didn't show up to the call on time
There really wasn't anything they could say that would make me feel any better (or rather, now I didn't care.)
It felt like all they wanted was absolution for leading me on. But to hell with that 🙅♂️
I wrote this:
"I appreciate the offer of feedback. I was excited and available for our call at 1:00pm, but at 1:01 was re-affirmed of my opinion on the experience I've had with your recruitment process. A follow up won't be necessary..."
Yes, yes, I know my response wasn't that bad, but it's still me throwing shade at a hiring manager. I was fed up. We never spoke again.
I'm reminded of this story today because recently I'd been sent a job listing at the same company. I don't believe the role is on this hiring manager's team, but it did make me pause and think about how I handled myself last year.
If I could do it again, I likely would have still taken their phone call and had a more civilized discussion about my feelings. I'm sure they would have understood and maybe we'd still be connected positively.
That said, I'm confident my career will be just fine. I just have to recognize that this is a bridge I've burned and it'll take some extra time to mend, should I choose to ever cross it again.
Que Sera Sera, right?
Have you ever been pushed to the end of your rope with a hiring manager? I'm curious to hear how you reacted or how you would have handled my situation.
Have a great week, guys!